You Sank My Friendship!

Friendship is a funny thing. At least for me.

Friendship for me is something that comes easily, but it also goes easily. It's not that hard to get a new pal. The hard part is to keep that pal around for longer.

Growing up, I always wanted to have friends that would come to my house all the time to hang out, or me going to their houses and hang out all the time. Kinda like That's 70's Show, where whole bunch of people just got together, hung out and talked about stuff. I did have childhood friends. My dad would take me to Jason*'s house on Monday, Phil*'s house on Tuesday, Janice*'s house on Wednesday, etc. That was every week, until all of a sudden I just stopped hanging out with them. Life happened. I don't speak or see those childhood friends anymore. Wonder where they are now.

Friendship is a funny thing, because you go from hanging out with someone all day all the time, to not speaking to each other at all after a while. I go on my Facebook and go through my first year pictures. I had sooo many friends! I was more of a social butterfly; I had different groups of people I hung out with. And now that I look back at those pictures I think to myself, "who are they?". I mean, I know who they are cuz I used to see them all the time at school, but to me, they are people who you would pass by today and they won't even say hi to you. How did this happen?

It was easier when I lived in residence in my first three years of university because you basically go to a different floor or walk a few steps to chat with a friend. But now that I have graduated, people pursue different paths in life. Just like when I graduated from high school, everyone wanted to do something different. Friends moved away, friends who got jobs, friends who wanted to continue their education.... It's like people are too busy to maintain friendships now. I don't like how everything is robotized now - go to school, learn, come home, homework, sleep, repeat; or go to work, get home, dinner, sleep, repeat. I feel like people are so busy that they don't try hard to maintain friendships anymore. Everyday is an excuse not to see a long-time friend. "Oh, sorry, can't meet up with you next week. I have a big project to do." How hard is it to give up half an hour of the day to char with friends and have a good time?

Since last two summers a friend of mine has been wanting to have a get together with our group of people. Dates kept being postponed and plans kept changing because everyone was too busy. In January I thought for a while that the get-together was actually going to happen. But people are just too busy with their lives to dedicate a few mins for planning a group date. Are people that lazy now? Do people not care about friendship anymore?

I have had several best friends in my life. It goes from building a strong relationship to the friendship being destroyed and stepped on by life. It's so unfortunate because you invest so much of your time and your life secrets in these people, and all of a sudden, they disappear from your life. Kinda unfair if you asked me.

But I guess people change. Life happens. After all, the best you can do is to enjoy the moment because it won't last. All you are left with are just memories and they make you who you are. Sure, you have lost old friends, but there are many friends to be made and new great memories to be created in the future.

Gemini Bunny Loses Her Twin

Today, my best friend left the house to go back home in Terrace Bay. I always saw my friend as my gemini twin because we are so alike, though not as much since I got into a relationship.

Her and I were very free-willed people, taking life easy and enjoy it as much as we can. Loving life as it is. Enjoy being ourselves. Smiling every chance we get. We both had similar ideals about life in general. We also like to stay away from drama as much as possible.

I have enjoyed my time this year living with her. During the summer we used to sit outside the house, get some sun and looking at people passing by. We also walked to the fountain on campus, talk, and look at people passing by. We shared lots of gossips together. Sometimes we go into each other's room just to talk. I went to her room because I find myself being bored or needing to get some social life. I go to her because I feel like I can talk to her about anything and we always have something to talk about. we have a good trust on each other because I would tell her things I would not tell anyone, or she will tell me things she won't tell anyone. She always came to me and hug me - and sometimes she jokingly try to snap my bra or have unappropriate lesbian jokes- We planned couple events together, like Hoops Night.

When she left today, I felt like a piece of me is leaving me. Who am i going to sit outside with? Who am I going to complain about people to? Whose singing will I hear? Who am I going to tell gossips to? Who am i going to do the volcaaaanooooo high five? Who do I giggle with? Who is going to high five me about evil things? There are certainly people I can do this with, and still some other friends who are still here, but it's not going to be the same.

With the surprise party another friend threw her and how she was crying when she left, I suddenly realized how much her friendship means to her, and how valuable friendships are. When she cried she made us all cry. Some people are amazing friends. Sometimes I wish I had more friends like them. It makes me wonder if I have friends like that, who would throw me a surprise good-bye party and be sad when I leave. But this is usually not the case because I am always the one that stays the last. It is like when I was in residence and I had to see everyone leave and I had to stay until the very last date.

Times like this makes me think that I need to take friendship more seriously, not that I don't, but I need to build stronger bonds with people and make really good friends. Because I really don't wanna end up like my mother who barely has any friends and spends the entire time in the house with my dad. I really wants friends I can rely on. Good friends I feel comfortable talking about things. Like I saw on television on a show called Boss in disguise or something, "build relationships, then do business". I need to build relationships with people. Because it is just going to benefit me, in every single way.

It is indeed really sad to see people move away. Today two of my friends moved out of the house, the two I get along the best with. But even more than that, a whole bunch of people I know are moving on with their lives. Lots of them are graduating and going on separate ways in life. My best friend is going home and pursuit her career in theatre. Couple friends are moving to downtown to live. Some are going back home after graduation. Others are going to college or graduate school. It is like high school again, when all your friends are leaving to do different things and going to different schools. No wonder it is so hard to keep a friendship. Once bonds are made, it's meant to be broken. Because honestly, when people move, they change. People might stayn in touch with you for the first couple months, but it is just going to die away slowly and then you don't get in touch with them. Been there, done that. That is probably why I don't take friendships so seriously. Because I don't wanna get hurt when they leave me. But I guess that's part of life.

Losing friendships means you gain new ones, but not forgetting old ones. The best thing to do is do my best to create great bonds with people, at least temporary, but they are going to be strong bonds.